Friday, May 30, 2014

Saying Grace

From a recent acquisition, A Grateful Heart:  Daily Blessings for the Evening Meal from Buddha to the Beatles


A Prayer for the Children... by Ina J. Hughes

We pray for the children
who put chocolate fingers everywhere,
who like to be tickled,
who stomp in puddles and ruin their new pants, who sneak Popsicles before supper,
who erase holes in math workbooks,
who can never find their shoes.

And we pray for those
who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire, who’ve never squeaked across the floor in new sneakers, who never had crayons to count,
who are born in places we wouldn’t be caught dead, who never go to the circus,
who live in an X-rated world.

We pray for children
who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions, who sleep with the dog and bury goldfish,
who give hugs in a hurry and forget their lunch money, who cover themselves with Band-Aids and sing off-key, who squeeze toothpaste all over the sink,
who slurp their soup.

And we pray for those
who never get dessert,
who watch their parents watch them die, who have no safe blanket to drag behind, who can’t find any bread to steal,
who don’t have any rooms to clean up, whose pictures aren’t on anybody’s dresser, whose monsters are real.

We pray for children
who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,
who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food, who like ghost stories,
who shove dirty clothes under the bed,
who never rinse out the tub,
who get visits from the tooth fairy,
who don't like to be kissed in front of the school,
who squirm in church or temple or mosque
and scream in the phone,
whose tears we sometimes laugh at and whose smiles can make us cry.

And we pray for those
whose nightmares come in the daytime,
who will eat anything,
who aren't spoiled by anybody,
who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep, who live and move, but have no being.

We pray for children who want to be carried, and for those who must.
For those we never give up on,
and for those who never get a chance.

For those we smother with our love,
and for those who will grab the hand of anybody kind enough to offer it.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

My bedtime routine

(Daily prompt from The Creative Notebook)

My evenings are full and fast.  My oldest disembarks from the bus around 4:40 p.m.  We come home, he plays for half an hour and then we wrestle over homework while I try to make dinner and keep the younger two somewhat appeased.  Dinner is generally at 6 p.m.  Kids' bath times start around 7 p.m. - Jeremy handles those when he's home while I clean up the kitchen.  I put Adelaide down between 7:30 and 8, while Jeremy puts the boys down at the same time after bath.  Once Adelaide is down and the boys are in their beds, I sing to Graham while stroking his head, then rub Gideon's back for a few minutes.  Hopefully, all of the dishes have been done by this point, so I can plop myself down on the couch and laugh at a favorite show or two with Jeremy.

I head upstairs around 9:30 for my bath (not shower); I like to read in the bathtub.  I push through brushing teeth and taking vitamins afterwards, then slide into bed and read until my eyes can't stay open anymore, which is about 5 minutes.  I turn out the light and usually slide off into sleep effortlessly - these days, I can't tell you what runs through my mind after the light goes off.  Not much.  The restlessness usually comes later in the night, after a baby feeding, when I worry about the oldest's attention span and social development and curse myself for yelling too much the day before.

The nights are pretty routine and set in stone, even if they are still overfilled with yelling on my part.  The mornings continue to be a challenge.


Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Tradition and Memory

Jeremy, July 1975 (2 months)
Gideon, March 2007 (3 months)

Graham, April 2012 (4 months)
Adelaide, May 2014 (2 months)





Monday, May 5, 2014

Five things that really make me happy...

(daily prompt from The Creative Notebook)

1.  Being able to have the windows open in the house.
2.  Nap time.
3.  My boys laughing and playing together while I cook dinner.
4.  De-cluttering.
5.  A delicious dinner out with my husband and a glass of wine.

Saturday, May 3, 2014